Thursday, 3 October 2013
A natural behavior
Contrary to many people’s beliefs, masturbation is healthy sexual behavior. However, many women feel uncomfortable about it. For example, they rarely discuss masturbation among themselves or with their partners. But whoever you are, whetheryou admit it or not, everybody masturbates. Infact, it has been revealed as the most common human sexual activity. And why not? It feels great, it is good for you, and it is the only sexual activitythat is 100 percent safe. What’s more, masturbation can relieve sexual tension, and will teach you about your body’sresponses and how to achieve an orgasm. Thosewho don’t indulge may miss out on achieving maximum pleasure.
Get in the mood
Now that you have had your anatomy lesson, you should be able to find your hot spots—such asthe clitoris and G-spot—with the help of a handmirror or some explorative touching. But locatingthese hot spots is just the beginning. Getting yourself into a relaxed state of mind, and then knowing how to stimulate yourself, are equallyvital parts of the process.
Different strokes
When it comes to masturbation, most womenhave their preferences. Some enjoy soft, light brushes, while others enjoy hard, fast strokes.Some women like to use their hands or a vibrator,while other women prefer a handheldshowerhead or pillow to reach a climax. In order to discover what you enjoy, make sure you masturbate regularly. Play with different positions and techniques to find out which are themost enjoyable. You will find that self-love can give you some helpful clues for what you will enjoy during sex.
Take your time
A wonderfully relaxing way to enjoy your self-love time is in a bathtub full of warm and bubbly water. To create the right mood, light some candles and put on some relaxing music. Savor the moment and, as you bathe, run your hands over your body, and then between your legs. Get carried away with the sensuality of it all.Explore and experiment in order to find outwhat works best for you—and enjoy the intensesensations of your fingers and the warm water against your genitals.
Touch
Zero in on your erogenous zones—breasts,nipples, inner thighs, torso, and stomach. Discover what body part sends chills down your spine. Gently tickle and caress yourinner thighs, massage your breasts, andstimulate your nipples. Listen to your bodyand discover what erotic zones raise yourheart rate and get you excited—technically we all have the same hot spots, but we also have our preferences. So take your time and explore every area of your body.
Rub
Try rubbing different parts of your genitals—vulva, vagina, periurethral area, clitoris, and perineum. Experiment with different types of movement—up and down, back and forth, round and round. Even if you masturbateoften and have regular orgasms, you can enhance your excitement and intensify the experience by taking your time and tryingout different strokes and pressures.
Imagine
If you find it hard to shut out the world and just revel in the pleasures of self-love, closeyour eyes and bring to mind a sexy image or fantasy. Let your mind run wild and imaginethe sensual pleasures of your fantasy indetail—feel the warm sand beneath your naked body, or the muscles in your fantasy-man’s arms. Use your imagination to enrich the sensations that your fingers are creating. There aren’t any rules you need to stick to, so feel free to create the most vivid fantasies and enjoy satisfying your wildest sexual desires, no matter what they might be.
Loving yourself
Plan time alone for yourself and make surethe environment is relaxing. Don’t make an orgasm the goal, or you will become stressed and disappointed if it doesn’t happen. Insteadfocus on feeling sensual and touching yourbody in ways that feel pleasurable. Whether or not an orgasm occurs, enjoy this special time alone to relax your mind and body.
-----Laura Berman PhD
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